A few months back I wrote about who I would have wanted at my ideal 40th birthday party.
Cannot believe how much has change since then!!!
Still would like all the people I first mentioned to come along but realistically I will have a few drinks with some friends. Get to spend some time with The Family and some other friends after the bday so Im no longer worried about the day itself.
But I still cannot believe that I have The Family back, I'm off to see them again next month and I even got to speak to Weird Brother today. So I only need a chance to speak to Big Brother (and you of course) then my year has been a great success and the family complete.
So any celebration of my birthday will be great, there is only one present I still would like and that is for us to have contact but nchalah that will happen soon.
I'm still panicking about what would happen if I approach you directly and is still considering giving your (adoptive) mum another chance to tell you. But I now know that whatever will happen I am ready for the outcome, good or bad.
Monday, 21 September 2009
Sunday, 13 September 2009
A step in the "right" direction
You added Cousin 1 as a friend on FB and you two have had some contact, you have common interest so inchalla you will eventually become proper friends.
I assumed that you just added him without any thought, but then again, I hope that you added him knowing that he was family - that is unlikely but I can always hope!!
For now it is good to see that you both are interacting with each other and for now that is great for me, it is a baby step in the right direction. Just knowing that you have some contact with your family is so great, even if you don't realise. I just hope you can forgive both Cousin 1 and me when the penny drops.
As they say patience is a virtue, so I have decided that I will not try to contact you or your (adoptive) parents until after your next birthday. That way, if you know and you added your cousin cause he is family, it will give you a chance to get to "know" The Family a bit through him. I'm sure he want to tell you he is your cousin but he has promised not do that. I have asked him to only respond you your direct questions if there ever are any, but as I said, I have assumed, that you just did the normal teenage thing of adding him without any questions.
I'm going back up North again next month and is looking forward to seeing The Family again. You never know you and your cousin might be chatting by then.
I assumed that you just added him without any thought, but then again, I hope that you added him knowing that he was family - that is unlikely but I can always hope!!
For now it is good to see that you both are interacting with each other and for now that is great for me, it is a baby step in the right direction. Just knowing that you have some contact with your family is so great, even if you don't realise. I just hope you can forgive both Cousin 1 and me when the penny drops.
As they say patience is a virtue, so I have decided that I will not try to contact you or your (adoptive) parents until after your next birthday. That way, if you know and you added your cousin cause he is family, it will give you a chance to get to "know" The Family a bit through him. I'm sure he want to tell you he is your cousin but he has promised not do that. I have asked him to only respond you your direct questions if there ever are any, but as I said, I have assumed, that you just did the normal teenage thing of adding him without any questions.
I'm going back up North again next month and is looking forward to seeing The Family again. You never know you and your cousin might be chatting by then.
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